· Are the choices you’re making achieving the desired results?
· Do you feel that you are in a rut or that life is passing you by?
· Are you living life on your own terms?
If you don’t like your answer to any of these questions – read on.
Change cannot be lasting if it is only addressed with the conscious mind. Behaviours and habits are ingrained in the subconscious mind. For example, if someone suffers from low self esteem the condition must be dealt with where habits and behaviours reside. To change your life you have to change your mind – your way of thinking on both levels. Most importantly, you have to want to change. The decision must be yours and not that of some other well meaning family member or friend.
The way you think has been for the most part, determined by others through modeling and learned behaviour. Children learn from parental examples and often recreate their parent’s habits unknowingly. They sometimes model themselves after other significant people in their lives, teachers, grandparents, caregivers are primary examples.
To be able to change you must identify why you do what you do. It’s also helpful to clarify and understand your motivation and discovering who you are doing it for. Below are some ideas on getting started.
List the things you want to change. For example this can be about behaviours, habits, situations or just about anything that comes to mind that is within the realm of physical possibility. As Eckhart Tolle says in one of his lectures “I cannot be a heavy weight boxer no matter how hard I try”. (His physique would not be appropriate for this goal).
Set goals and a concrete schedule to achieve them. The best laid plans for achieving goals mean nothing without a reasonable timeline. It is beneficial to set short term and long term goals. If you wish to lose 50 pounds set a goal for 1 month, 3 months and 6 to 8 months. Breaking down a task into smaller steps makes it more believable (to the mind) and therefore, achievable.
Work with a professional to help facilitate the changes desired. It’s always easier when you have the support of someone who believes in you.
"Whatever you ardently desire, vividly imagine, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass." Unknown
· Do you feel that you are in a rut or that life is passing you by?
· Are you living life on your own terms?
If you don’t like your answer to any of these questions – read on.
Change cannot be lasting if it is only addressed with the conscious mind. Behaviours and habits are ingrained in the subconscious mind. For example, if someone suffers from low self esteem the condition must be dealt with where habits and behaviours reside. To change your life you have to change your mind – your way of thinking on both levels. Most importantly, you have to want to change. The decision must be yours and not that of some other well meaning family member or friend.
The way you think has been for the most part, determined by others through modeling and learned behaviour. Children learn from parental examples and often recreate their parent’s habits unknowingly. They sometimes model themselves after other significant people in their lives, teachers, grandparents, caregivers are primary examples.
To be able to change you must identify why you do what you do. It’s also helpful to clarify and understand your motivation and discovering who you are doing it for. Below are some ideas on getting started.
List the things you want to change. For example this can be about behaviours, habits, situations or just about anything that comes to mind that is within the realm of physical possibility. As Eckhart Tolle says in one of his lectures “I cannot be a heavy weight boxer no matter how hard I try”. (His physique would not be appropriate for this goal).
Set goals and a concrete schedule to achieve them. The best laid plans for achieving goals mean nothing without a reasonable timeline. It is beneficial to set short term and long term goals. If you wish to lose 50 pounds set a goal for 1 month, 3 months and 6 to 8 months. Breaking down a task into smaller steps makes it more believable (to the mind) and therefore, achievable.
Work with a professional to help facilitate the changes desired. It’s always easier when you have the support of someone who believes in you.
"Whatever you ardently desire, vividly imagine, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon must inevitably come to pass." Unknown
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Linda - beautiful quote!
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure I feel as though I am in a rut but I def feel as though life is passing me by. My greatest challenge has been "focus". It is the forefront of all I do this upcoming year.